I am way out of my wheelhouse when it comes to paint however as I’m sure you know there is a member here called Painter - perhaps you could consult him. Every time I’ve reached out he’s been more than forthcoming and helpful.
One thought I have as far as the luster is concerned , keep the color you have but shoot it with a clear matte finish to bring it down a little bit perhaps.
And you’re absolutely right. We are all nuts but we do love it so😎