Posts by sideseatdriver

  • Conservative Politics & Daily Events Discussion

    *Written in a non-argumentative, exasperated, disappointed, and weary tone - not to be read as hostile, sarcastic, or otherwise argument inducing manner*


    @Zorasmiles your response proves my point. I do not desire to belittle the history of oppression that follows the white male, but I do not believe that oppressing the oppressor serves society as a whole any better. You take a statement, and then blanket it to all of the male skittles. What about the skittles women since you fail to mention them? What about those men who identify as women, and the skittles version of them since you also fail to mention them? You, even in your broader disdain for my statement, only apply it to the realm in which you occupy in your attempt to voice fill in the appropriate emotion here.


    THAT IS MY POINT.


    Take the word "brother", as it is bandied about fairly frequently on this forum. Purely from a sociological perspective it is misogynistic, and racist. The broad application of the masculine term automatically removes the female from the application although there are numerous female members on this board (I do acknowledge that a few of the women on here are noted as "sis", but I am using this purely for a point of discussion). It is also racist, as cultural undertones indicate a shift from the use of "brother" in the African American culture to "bro" in the 1970's, which would signify that the use of the full word is used in this context to alienate those members of color, of whom there are at least a few (depending on your definition of a few). Although noting here that the use of "bro" could be considered racial appropriation depending on who uses it to whom. Perhaps this may seem a simple representation of my point, but it serves its purpose. In one gesture, whereby nearly all of the people on this forum who are using it do so in a purely inclusive manner, they are, instead, walking the corridor between minefields, or even walking straight into one. How do you fix it? Instead of brother, perhaps "friend"? But does "friend" identify the bond that many members have? Do you just remove a word at all and leave whatever relationships that are forming to do so without any words?


    Now switch that thought. If you were to use the word "brother" to the people on this forum, because you do so as an African American male, the social perception is that you are doing so in an all-inclusive manner. You have crossed the racial boundaries, and since you started it, then the person in receipt can answer back with the same response no matter the color, and it would be appropriate.


    Technically speaking, I should not be using "male" and "female" in my argument as you could debate whether or not the genders should be defined in such a binary manner, so perhaps one of the gender neutral terms should be applied? Which one? Xim? Ner?


    We, as a society, are becoming so focused on the victim mentality that statements such as "he/she/xe/xim/xer said this and it hurt my feelings so he/she/xe/xim/xer should not be allowed to say that anymore" are becoming normal. The moment that happens, you begin to erode the First Amendment.


    No, I do not support hate speech. No, I don't support racist jokes. No, I don't support misogynistic jokes. No, I don't support homophobic jokes. In general I DO NOT SUPPORT STUPIDITY. But I also do not support curbing the full use of the First Amendment in order to curb that stupidity (also noting here that hate speech is not covered by the First Amendment).


    And as a complete aside from that section of the commentary, you mention that if a woman slapped you, you stopped. The point, from a female perspective, is you never should have gone in for the kiss. Your unwanted attention, including the contact, is considered sexual assault. Is it minor? Yes. Would it get reported? No. But it is, at its roots, sexual assault. Your innocent misinterpretation and reaction to a situation is sexual assault. So you stop with that woman. And you do it with someone else, who also slaps you. Guess what, that too, is sexual assault.


    You know what everyone (is that inclusive enough?), I'm out. These conversations are meant to be had over a beer where you can see body language and hear sarcasm and with people who know you for you, or are at least willing to learn. These are the conversations I have with my gay friends and my skittle friends and my transgender friends, not with people who don't know shit about me. And yes, I do have those friends *shocker!*. Have a good night all!

  • Conservative Politics & Daily Events Discussion

    Quote from WOLF

    Based on the responses to my "few colleges" comment, and the percentages involved based on examples put forth of colleges with "safe spaces" in comparison to the number of college and university campuses in the US, I am now left to rethink "few" as a fraction of a percent. ?(:D

    Semantics, like statistics, can be modified to mean whatever you want. Say something vague like " a few" and leave it open to interpretation. Technically a few is considered to be an arguably statistically significant percentage of the whole of whatever was being discussed. You say "few" and "mostly in California", and I give you evidence (the first two sites that came up on a lengthy list, and chosen because they are from, again, arguably neutral sources) that disagrees with your assessment.


    You say a few, and I counter with, well, what is your definition of a few: "There were a few deaths in the US from ebola", or "a few people were upset when Trump was elected?".


    Words matter. Especially as the First Amendment inches towards becoming a narrow and sociopolitically charged corridor bounded on either side by minefields, particularly for those who suffer from the stigma and privilege of being white and identifying as male.

  • Conservative Politics & Daily Events Discussion

    Quote from WOLF

    Safe spaces at a few colleges, not wide spread and from what I've seen only in Cali.

    Numerous schools – Armstrong State University in Georgia, Concordia College—Moorhead in Minnesota, Kent State Universityin Ohio, the University of South Carolina and James Madison University in Virginia, among them – have Safe Zone and Safe Space programs in place....
    colleges-tackle-free-speech-trigger-warnings-safe-spaces


    20 other small colleges:
    20 Great Value Colleges with Safe Spaces - Great Value Colleges


    Lots and lots of colleges have them, so you have to break the question down further as to what the safe spaces are used for to really make your argument (LGBTQ+, racial support in primarily white schools, pansification, etc).

  • I know it's early...buuut

    Quote from Br4hm4

    You are absolutely correct. I went to a Home and Garden show and paid $5 for entry. I didn't buy anything, but it was still an entrance fee. I also went to a wine and chocolate show this past year and it was $40 just to go to the event and then you had to buy tickets for food and beverage items. Parking was separate since it was operated by the venue operator not the show. Just seems to be the norm with any event.

    I don't disagree with you that there is typically an entrance fee, but that is usually identified and published ahead of time, not only a couple of weeks out. For instance, if we had decided last fall to go to SSITS when we were originally told no entrance fee, K2 would have registered himself and the sling so he could do rides. I would have come with the kids for community. Fast forward to now, I would just be finding out that I would be paying an extra $30 a day just to be a part of our community. It isn't that much for one day, but a week? On top of everything else? That could very well be bordering on cost prohibitive at this point. I know that the $10 is more for single day visitors, but it affects everyone in different ways. At least give people the warning ahead of time.


    I honestly don't care since we made the decision long ago not to go (for this very reason). So I hope those that go have fun, and those that don't have fun, and everyone just has fun doing their own thing. :D

  • Small claims court

    Quote from ericastar76

    Is this it? https://www.yelp.com/biz/simps…e-automotive-simpsonville


    Only 3 reviews (5 stars too)... oh this will be easy.

    no, that's in Kentucky. Doesn't look like they have a Yelp account. Here is their Google link: search?source=hp&ei=3rffWrL7EY27zwKA-YrAAw&q=simpsonville automotive&oq=simpsonville au&gs_l=mobile-gws-hp.1.0.0l5.1212.9794..10893...4....206.1845.15j3j1..........1..mobile-gws-wiz-hp.....3..41j0i131j0i10.jvAasctKinI=#istate=lrl:iv&lkt=LocalPoiReviews&rlimm=6426710000998341757

  • Small claims court

    Quote from Bill Martin

    BTW - have you thought about threatening him with @sideseatdriver - she is pretty scary :00008359:

    Yeah... That happened, minus the threats. I wrote something on his paper, so he wouldn't let me sign it, so I refused to sign anything and he verbally rescinded his warranty on the transmission (which was written on the paper). I called his Bullshit and he got angry, said he'd "see" about it. If I was any less the crazy bitch he would have actually scared me.

  • Farewell To Some Great Ones

    Quote from bjk81

    I went to my uncles funeral at Arlington. He died in June 2016 and the funeral was Dec 1 2016. One of the most humbling days of my life.

    My cousin is a Marine and came up to visit when I lived in DC. His only request was that we go to Arlington. We went. He was looking for someone specific, and as I looked at the headstone as I walked by (I gave him some time alone), it was a young Lt - his Platoon Commander in Afghanistan. From a distance, I watched him take a knee, put a hand on the stone, and sob. I don't know what that young officer did, but being a young officer myself at the time, it was the most poignant thing I had seen.


    As for the Gunny, he came to Iraq as part of a USO tour. There was a rather long line to meet him that moved very slowly. The reason it was so slow is that he took the time to talk to each person, to get to know each individual, to make each person feel special before he took a picture with us. He was awesome, just from that very short encounter.

  • PAINTERS SS ART GALLERY

    Quote from KayTwo

    You know, I hadn't thought of that...I have some very good pictures of her that I would be happy to have painted all over my Sling! :evil::evil:

    I have a knife, a "testicle" sized jar, and I know where you sleep :00008021: . I also know how to delete pictures and keep you from getting any more.


    Love you.